Posted by: LovelyAnomaly | May 26, 2009


I think plants are really onto something brilliant.  They’ve learned the importance of letting go.  They know they have to pop open that comfy little bud to display their flowers if they ever want to set seeds.

But when it comes down to it, seeds and humans have much more in common when it comes to letting go.

Some seeds are so willing to open up and let themselves grow into something great.  We’ve all wrapped up lima beans in wet paper towels for class projects, returned to them in a few days, and discovered that they are already sending out their roots and shoots.  Some people are so easily able to soften their outer coating, make new friends, move on from previous experiences.

And then there are some seeds that take a little work.  They are so perfectly content in their protective little shell; why should they ever bother to sprout?  It’ll be cold and windy.  Rainy and scary.  These seeds take some time to grow.  They might need a long, cold winter before they’ll open up in the warmth of spring (stratification).  Or maybe they need to be scratched along the surface in order to finally let the water come in and get things started (scarification).  People can be very much like this.  The Kentucky Coffeetree seeds of the human world.  It might take someone curious enough to penetrate the outer shell we’ve created, blocking ourselves out as much as we are trying to hold ourselves in at the same time.  But finally the seed will let go of its cozy home and burst into a seedling.

So, what are the stratification and scarification needs of a human?  What are the directions, the necessary conditions for a person to really move on and become what they are meant to be?  To grow as a person?  How long do they have to sit in a cold exterior before they allow themselves to warm up to a new opportunity or new relationship?  Obviously it’s different for every person, every situation is unique.

I am just tired of letting myself live dormantly in this cold, lonely environment.  It’s time to bust out of this shell.


  1. This was a really good post.

    I don’t know that much about plants, but I do know that my favorite flowers (tulips) need to lie dormant for a while (right?). Sometimes I think periods of dormancy end up contributing to something great when a seed finally sprouts.

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